The Sin of
Regret
This week I am actively working on a particular sin
in my life—regret. There is nothing more debilitating than looking
backwards with remorse and sorrow. Regret becomes sin when we allow it
to steal our joy, separate us from experiencing the love of God, and
when it keeps us from serving Him wholeheartedly.
Many of us cower under memories of our past moral
failures. How can we break free? Here’s my plan…
First, I remind myself that
Jesus has already died for those sins. I’ve repented; he’s forgiven me.
Romans 8:1 says: “So now
there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.”
Every time I feel a stab of regret for past mistakes, I audibly speak
those words. The more I say them, the less I am tormented.
Second, we need to realize that our condemnation
comes from God’s enemy. Scripture refers to him as “the accuser of the
brethren.” If Satan can’t keep Jesus from saving us, he will settle for
making us miserable. He wants to defocus us from Jesus by refocusing us
on how bad we’ve been. Don’t let him! The price for our failures was
paid at the cross.
Third, we can’t see what God
did with our past failures. What an insult it is when we assume He
didn’t use them for good in the lives of others. Romans 8:28 assures us,
“… that God causes
everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are
called according to His purpose for them.”
God causes
all things-- even our sins-- to work for good. He transforms lives with
the refuse we leave behind. When regrets threaten my joy, I praise God
for His loving sovereignty. His infinite power has already changed my
failures into advantages.
Fourth,
when I am tempted to massage my regrets, I choose thanksgiving instead.
“Thank you, Father. My failures remind me of Your great love for me and
my great need for You.”
Fifth,
it’s tempting to think that our past failures cast permanent shadows
over how God can use us today. They don’t. No matter how much we have
sinned in the past, He has work for us. God doesn’t care how many people
have unfriended you on Facebook. He is unconcerned with what your
criminal background check reveals. He doesn’t keep count of how many
times you hurt someone’s feelings, broke your promises, or disappointed
your family.
Ephesians 2:10 says this: “For
we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we
can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” No matter how badly
we may have failed in the past, it positioned us to be used by Him
today.
Sixth, my past
mistakes can be extremely useful. I know what I don’t want to do again.
Without wallowing in self-indulgent regret, the occasional sting of my
transgressions rightly keeps me humble. I am a sinner saved by grace.
Without Jesus I deserve nothing good. It’s that simple.
And finally, Paul
reminds us where to keep our eyes. “… I
focus on this one thing: forgetting the past and looking forward to what
lies ahead, press on to reach the end of the race and receive the
heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.”
Did Paul forget his moral failures, his sins? No. But he didn’t dwell on
them. Instead he put his thoughts and heart into serving Christ by
helping the men and women around him.
Without regret, that is what each of us needs to do also.
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